A Strange Request
Like every coin there are two sides to every person a public and private self. It is a sense of responsibility for people to not let these these two versions form into one. I find myself with a struggle to show the people in public the person I am but in private the search of meaning and my role in this world and my place within it. It is a very protected part of one’s self and even under the most extreme circumstances at all costs we try to protect this private self cause it is the only thing that we have that no one else can take away from us. It can only be exposed which that in itself loses our ability to have a sense of ourselves.
The darker side of human nature is to manipulate the minds of their true and best friends, for their own gain or for the gain of others whether it is helping a friend or not. I find it is much easier to deal with problems in isolation, solidarity and long periods of thought provoking sessions. It is only these periods of isolation that allow us to see what is wrong with ourselves and allow us to critically come up with solutions or a “where do I go from here” plan that keeps us on track. I have several friends when I can tell that something is wrong all they ever say is “Being alone is what I want. It’s the only way that I feel safe inside the darkness that is me must try and heal when sadness is in the eyes distance is the best friend.” 
There are few circumstances I would take into acccount to do such a thing for my friends parents. The only way I could try to find out what is wrong is if there was clear intent to cause harm to oneself or cause harm to another. If I saw my friend on a ledge I would do everything to stop them rather than sit back and watch them fall. I expect the courage from my friend to come and talk to me if they feel hopeless and cannot help themselves. It is so difficult to try and feel for a close friend because I will never see my friends whole life, and I can never try my friends life.
I would feel so intrusive if I was requested to find out what is happening in my friends life, if it were to be justified I would feel I was doing a lot more good to my friend than harm. I also feel it would be part of the parents’ responsibility to find out why their child is acting strangely. They could very well be the solution or part of the problem as to why their child is acting strangely. It is human nature for an offspring to feel compelled to have a relationship with thier mother and father as they are the giver and keeper of life to the offspring. When one’s world falls to pieces, they feel that someone will still be there to pick them up.
Honesty, there are no shades of grey only the truth as it can be. With honesty towards a friend comes with the actions of honor which are the choices that I make that reflect who I truly am. By being straight and telling my friend up front what I am doing that is the only way to show that I am truly a friend and not against him or a servant to his parents. How are we suppose to help the ones that we love when we can not even tell them that we are helping them to begin with?
The greatest fulfillment is having a concrete relationship with others, one in which both persons are able to meet their psychological needs. Our needs of fulfillment, sense of worth, belonging and just the fact that someone who cares. The fact that someone who cares is one of the most important needs. The recurring question I have about society is always why is it so hard to find someone who cares about you, when it is easy enough to find someone who looks down upon you? The need of belonging and caring is what we all get out of relationships with one another.
The darkest side of human nature is that at some point we always feel that all hope is gone and all freedom is lost. We all need a reason to believe in something to control our fear, pick ourselves up when we feel down. The feelings that we need to be alone and away from it all is another part of the darker side of human nature. If God calls all of us to love one another and care for each other then why do we feel the need to be away from the ones that we love the most at times. Behaviour that most of us see as strange when we find another in that state but behaviour that is the norm when we find ourselves in the same situation, the greatest fear of human nature is the mysteries that surround it.
It’s the magazines, the Television shows, the ads we see every day that give the thumbs up and thumbs down to trends, how we look, and how we act. I feel that sometimes I’m forced to not quite be myself because I’m pressured on how some people will think of me. I believe this is why a lot of people are forced to “wear a mask” or cover the person who they really are on the inside. It’s quite sad that society has become a melting pot with not much diversity anymore, because beauty truly does live in the eyes of the beholder.
I agree that each person has two sides and usually we get to only see the public side of most people, which is a shame because in public most people are afraid to be themselves as they feel they always need to fit in. I too do whatever it takes to help my friends but agree it is hard to help them when we don’t know about their whole life, and if they even want help. This is a great post that really made me think about how I can’t always judge people based on how they act around me because I may not know the true them.
LIfe would be brutish and short if we all did not feel a sense of belonging. All people need to feel the emotion of love and fulfillment to be truly happy. God calls us all to accept each other and treat one another like we would like to be treated. As I am doing my novel studies I am reading Nicholas Sparks and he has made a clear understanding for me what a good relationship entails.
I can relate to your opinion of always doing everything possible to help out a friend. I have always done my very best to make sure my friends know they can talk to me and explain their situations, no matter how tough. I may not always be able to give them advice or tell them what will make things better, but they know I am always willing to listen and do my best to help.
As humans on this earth we have two sides of a person and only one side is who we are. If some one is a nasty person they usually know that this is not who they are and that they actually have a good side of themselves that they just can’t seem to get out which I think is a shame to see.
Being afraid of what others think is what us humans been brought up to believe. If we don’t have the right hair, clothes or personality we are rejected from soceity as weird and abnormal. There are always those who don’t care what people think but for the majority of people they want people’s acceptence.