Rosiness or Gloomy Grey: On Viewing the World

I would consider myself to be an optimist for, the most part.  I like what Martin Seligman meant when he said, “Each of us carries a word in his heart, a “no” or a “yes.”  This means that people are either optimists or pessimists.  I like this quote because it reminds me of a few people I know.  My brother Cody is a “no” person.  He likes to criticize people on everything they do and he focuses on why things won’t work out.  My mom, on the other hand, is a “yes” person, or an optimist.  She likes to take something good from everything she does.  She also sees the endless amount of possibilities in the things she does.  Now, me on the other hand, I’m kind of in the middle.  I try to be optimistic about things, but sometimes it’s really easy to become a pessimist.  Everyone has their own thoughts and ideas on this particular subject.

A pessimist seems to be very negative and just trudges through life.  They rarely see the good in people.  Cody, though he can be kind and nice, is sometimes rude and mean.  He’s very much a “you can’t do it” person.  An example of this is would be when my other brother Khye was practicing his slapshot on our rink.  He isn’t very strong, so his slapshot is quite wimpy.  Instead of helping Khye, Cody was on the rink criticizing him.  That is a time where he stood out as a “no” person.

The opposite of a “no” person would be my mom.  She seems to find the good in everything and everyone.  When I come to her with a problem, she always tells me that there’s something that I can do to make it better.  If I’m frustrated or being negative at something or someone, she always tries to make me find something positive in it.  When I was sad our hockey team was done for the season, she explained to me how lucky I was to have a team with good teammates and coaches.  That’s one time when I remembered how much of a “yes” person my mom is.

These two people are quite different and quite similar at the same time.  I believe that I’m kind of a mix of a “no” person and a “yes” person.  You could possibly call me a “maybe” person.  The reason you could call me this is because I tend to be very much a “yes” person, but at the same time I tend to be a “no” person.  There are times where I’m very positive, helpful and joyful.  There are also moments when I can very grumpy and negative.  I don’t know why this happens.  Maybe it happens to everyone, as it does to me.

Everyone is different.  Some people are strictly “no” people and others are “yes” people.  We all look at things differently and we all have our own opinions.  I know two people that are quite exclussive to these two cateories, and they both view things differently.  Sometimes it’s for best and sometimes for the worst.

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