In marriage there are expectations. Marriages are not always perfect. In sacramental marriage there are three questions asked by the priest are, “are you here by your own free will and willing to give yourself. Do you intend to be faithful till death? Are you open to children and raising your children in the Church?“ These questions are hard because of expectations. Guided by freedom and fear. Do not want fear in this choice. Unknown to known lose fear. Can not let fear control. Nervousness to be a parent. The freedom I’m getting married to the person I love now I have the freedom to live with them. Not adding another human to a broken world is not a valid reason to not have children. Do not let fear control. “ You can not take a box of rocks and make life.” Mr. Sader. “Children are the point of marriage. Not the extra.”
After watching the video “If you’re not feeling loved” it has been brought to my attention just how much people may love us even though it doesn’t seem like it. Although we may be presented with “clear cut evidence” that they don’t love us this likely isn’t the case. Many people wish to love others in certain ways but for whatever reason, they lack the capacity to do so. Some of these factors could include a distant set of interests or hobbies, lack of ability to connect on a further than physical manner, and potentially they require a further understanding of your true self and can’t quite figure out how you truly are. It is crucial to our mental state to understand this so that we can thus love others back knowing that they are loving us in full capacity. One quote from this video that I wholeheartedly agree with is when Father Mike stated “There are others that we just don’t know how to love in a way that they will receive.” We need to remember this when we are feeling a lack of love from others and that they likely are experiencing the same things that we do when we struggle to love others in a fitting way.