When you tell someone you love them it does not mean you have a desire for them. Saying “I love you” means that you are making a decision. This decision means that you are choosing what is best for them, for them. It means that you understand them and know who they are and that you want to take it upon yourself to do what is best for them.
Everywhere we look we see life blooming in nature or in the people around us. At the same time, everywhere we look is death. Without death we could not have the miracle of life, because with no life there is no death. If God did not allow suffering, that would mean that we would no longer have freedom to make choices. If God always made everyone do the right thing so that there is no suffering, we wouldn’t have the choice to make wrong decisions which means we then have no freedom.