Father Mike Schmitz – How to Get Real Friends

In the video “How to Get Real Friends” by Father Mike Schmitz demonstrates what we as humans must act like and consider when looking in the friend market. Schmitz claims that sometimes we tend to get the thoughts or feelings of loneliness or abandonment. We put these thoughts in our mind and forget the most important thing in our lives, God. It is believed that We always have God and he doesn’t want us to be alone, so thats why he’s here. So even when we feel loneliness, we need to remember that we actually are not alone because God is there no matter what. Another point Schmitz makes is that the key to getting friends is to have Availability and Vulnerability. These mean that in order to make friends or keep them, we need to make sure we always have time for them, this can be by giving up something we like and doing something they like, an example would be, instead of always playing hockey, I could go to an art gallery or an activity of that specific persons choice. Even though making time or yourself available for a friend you also need to be vulnerable.  Vulnerability means being there for them, either when they are feeling sad or need someone to talk to, you must offer your time to be there with them. An example of this would be, my friend losing a loved one and me taking time off to sit with them and comfort them. I agree with Schmitz that in order to secure a friendship you must consider availability and vulnerability. Lastly, real friends have a bond of trust and you must earn this trust. Earning trust requirers honesty, truth and commitment. After preforming these expressions a trust bond will be tied. Most people only trust those they feel comfortable with. An example would be how I trust my friend Grace and she trusts me because we are honest with each other and are able to admit the truth but also commit to tasks we claim to do with or for each other. When trying to make new friends or keep old ones it is important to remember that no matter what we will always have god, we need to consider the key aspects of availability and vulnerability but also establish a for or trust.


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