My Boyfriends Back: Gender Stereotyping

  1. You don’t own me by Leslie Gore shows some directly implied gender problems in relation to men thinking that they “own” women. These next few lines show how some women may have felt in the 1950s-60s and most definitely prior to then:

    You don’t own me
    I’m not just one of your many toys
    You don’t own me
    Don’t say I can’t go with other boys

    And don’t tell me what to do
    Don’t tell me what to say
    And please, when I go out with you
    Don’t put me on display ‘

    Leslie was consciously writing this possibly because of an experience she had with a man who thought and acted in the way she sings in her song. From what I have seen in movies and heard about through other sources was that many men used women as their toys for their own pleasures and pride. They also felt superior to women in relationships and could say and do whatever they liked in private or out in public. The fourth line in the first set above also demonstrates that men thought they had the final say in the termination or continuation of a relationship. These are just a few lines from the song, but they signify a serous problem and message for men who think they are superior in relation to women. Not all men talk and act in this way but for those that did, and still do, it demonstrates a lack of true love and human dignity that all women deserve. If the gender roles were switched the message would still be the same, just in different tone.

  2. Let me go lover by Teresa Brower is another directly implied song that displays the problems some men can have when being in a relationship with a women. This song is similar to that of the song described above; it deals with men who believe that it is their say in the ending of a relationship because they don’t want to feel humiliation and hurt.                                       You don’t want me
    But you want me
    To go on wanting you
    Now I pray that
    You will say that
    We’re  through                                                                                                                                          Teresa could be signifying a moment in her life when she wanted to end a relationship but her “partner” wouldn’t allow it unless he ended it and got credit for doing so. This is an example of pride; a man wanting to see himself above those closest to him and try to make himself out to be what he is not. If the gender role was switched I don’t think it would make too big of a difference. It would only show that women think they are superior in relationships.
  3. Everyday of my life by the McGuire Sisters has parts in it that show how women may have felt, in the 50s and 60s, in regards to pleasing the boys they liked.
    Every day of my life I’ll be in love with you
    Every day of my life I promise I’ll be true
    I’ll never make you cry, and as the years go by
    I’ll always try to do what pleases you

    The line that I thought had some significance was: I’ll always try to do what pleases you. Although it can be taken in a self-giving tone, I can see how girls may have wanted to please their boyfriends by doing whatever pleases them, even in wrong ways. This brings a stereotype of men always not being satisfied with their present life and how she thinks she can solve it all.

  4. Put your head on my shoulder by Paul Anka shows how some men, though not directly implied, want women for what they can gain. Consider the line: Whisper in my ear, baby Words that I want to hear. This is true for many relationships today, but Anka shows how men in that time period wanted women to tell them things that they wanted to hear. This places a selfish outlook on men, by his words, and that men want from women that which will satisfy their inner most desires. If the gender roles were switched in this stereotype the message would be just the same.
    Put your head on my shoulder
    Whisper in my ear, baby
    Words I want to hear
    Tell me, tell me that you love me too (tell me that you love me too)
  5. All I have to do is dream by the Every Brothers. From first reading the title of this song it was clear that the message was if you want a girl you can get her. If you take this into context with the superiority of men however the message looks pretty bad. Consider the following line: Whenever I want you all I have to do is dream, I can make you mine. This again shows how men feel that they can get women if they only dream about it, like owning something. If the gender roles were switched it would be a little funny because that thing usually doesn’t occur in the opposite manner, but for some women it could be true in their own mindset.
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