Ideal Marriage

As people mature and grow, their idea of a perfect marriage often will change. Young girls often dream of the future, wishing they will be able to find their “prince charming” man, have a beautiful wedding with great decoration such as chair covers and linens, then create a life together, and live happily ever after. This vision of the perfect love story often gains depth and is re-shaped as knowledge and life experiences increase. Quite obviously, an ideal marriage should be based on love, but what is love? In Act I, Scene III, Macbeth said, “So foul and fair a day I have not seen” (line 39). Although this line is not referring to love, a connection can be made. Love will have both ups and downs, as well as good moments and bad moments, which can be considered fair and foul. Lana Del Rey said, “When someone else’s happiness is your happiness, that is love.” Marriage should be based on this happiness. The two people should be able to constantly smile together, have fun, joke around, and simply make one another joyful, day after day. The Second Witch said, “Not so happy, yet much happier” (1.3. 68) which shows that even if one is unhappy, love can make them forget their problems, allowing them to feel happy. Another aspect of love is honesty.  Banquo states, “They earn our trust by telling us the truth about little things” (1.3. 112). In marriage, partners should feel comfortable sharing the  truth one hundred per cent of the time, no matter what the circumstances may be. Without truth, there could not be trust, and marriage should be filled with trust. Trust that the are no secrets being kept, trust that they will be responsible, trust that they are reliable when it matters most, and trust that they will always be there. With this trust, communication goes hand in hand. Couples must be able to effectively communicate, not only when they are happy, but also when they are mad, disappointed, and upset. They should always talk about their plans, about their feeling, about how their day went, and about their accomplishments and failures. This idea of communication occurs when Macbeth says “I’ll be myself the harbinger and make joyful the hearing of my wife with your approach” (1.4. 46-47), showing that once he hears good news, he immediately wishes to share it with his wife. Although there is no such thing as a perfect marriage, if the relationship is based upon factors including happiness, honesty, trust, and communication, it is bound to come much closer to the image of a “perfect love story”.  
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