To Grieve is to carry another time
There is no past or future, we only experience it this way. So why does grieving asks; ”can’t we change times simply by changing our perceptions?”, Rovelli suggests that our linear experience of time is due to thermodynamics. The second law of thermodynamics dictates that the total amount of entropy in the universe can never decrease, only increase. For us, or at least in our section of the universe, time operates in only one direction. We also ask ourselves, ”Can we change time?”, we also want to know what the past mistakes taught us from our perception now.
According to physicist Carlo Rovelli that Time passes more quickly the closer one is to a gravitational mass (like a planet or a star or a black hole). This fact is popular in science fiction. A space traveler might return to Earth to find that her friends and family have aged more than she has. Even at different altitudes on Earth, time is different. Rovelli wrote that if identical twins separate early in life and live one in the mountains and one below sea level, then they will find in old age than the one below sea level has aged more, being closer to the center of the planet. Rovelli claims that time is not linear. It is a gravitational field. If he is right, time is like everything else in the universe and must be made up of extremely tiny particles.
I have currently read 4 examples of people grieving and why they are going through that. Showed me that memories are a major essential because the reason why we grieve is that the memories remind us of the time we are with them. It also reminds of how I thought after my grandma died, I used to think that she might be in a different universe or time travel might exist and I could spend more time with her. Memory also is an essential part of storytelling because the stories that we have exists in time. I also agree that memory is an essential part of storytelling because it reminds us of our past experiences with the person.
If one were to read a novel random page by random page, the novel would not have its intended effect. The effect comes from the order in which you read its words, a reader must remember what she has read before and made connections to what she reads next. Our linear experience of time, combined with our selective memory, means that as we live, humans construct ongoing stories about who we are. Our memories influence our present actions and likewise, our present actions influence our memories, like how we make a mistake and learn from it.
Each recollection of every memory is a process called reconstruction or sometimes reconsolidation changes that memory according to Janice Lee. As a consolation, Rovelli offers the mind as a time machine when we travel via memory. This is a disappointing compromise. In mourning, memory is only another cause for mourning. It does not change time, it only reminds one that time has passed. Without memory, the sentence you are reading now would not make sense. By the time you got to the word sense, if you did not remember the words before it, you wouldn’t know what sense referred to.