How to Get Real Friends

Everybody wants friendship. God even said that it’s not good for man to be alone, but not all of us have friendship and community, and that’s a problem, because not only do we want friendship and community, but we’re made for it, therefore we ask ourselves “What are the things we need in order to have real community and friendships?” You need at least availability and vulnerability in order to acquire these, but in order to acquire these, you must have carefree timelessness. Having carefree timelessness means you’ve made yourself available, and because of this, you should be open to friendships and making time for other people. Of course, this doesn’t mean you need to do this for EVERYBODY in your life, you CAN’T, because none of us are omnipresent like God, but we CAN make ourselves available to the people we’re closest to such as family and friends that we already have. There is also a difference between transparency and vulnerability. Transparency is like being in a fishbowl and from the outside, you can see everything, but vulnerability is where you let people into the fishbowl and can move some things around a little bit. However, vulnerability is risky because you can move one another’s stuff around, which means that they can hurt you and you can hurt them. This is why trust must be earned, but once it IS earned, being in the deep work of being vulnerable is highly important. This is why carefree timelessness leads to shared experiences, because it cultivates community and friendship, and when it does, you allow your friendship to grow alongside of your community, therefore having REAL friendship and community.

Parents Must be Open to Children

Like the title says, parents must be open to children, not should, but must! In Fr. Mike’s video, we learn that the point of marriage is to have children. Sure, some couples may be infertile, but if a couple wishes to have children, then they are fulfilling their sacraments in marriage. Marriage isn’t about self, but a gift of self. Because it’s a gift of self, it is oriented towards the procreation and education of children. Even though the point in marriage is to have children, there may be an infertile couple that may still want to have children, which is good because they’re not doing anything wrong. Marriage is the one relationship in the world that is oriented towards producing more human beings, and because of that, every couple that comes together has to be open to children or else it’s not a sacrament. In basic terms, you must be open to loving like God loves, or it’s not a sacrament of God’s love.

Why God Still Allows Suffering

People often ask why God doesn’t end suffering, or why he doesn’t take away evil and are left unanswered. The reason why God doesn’t end suffering and/or evil is because in order to take away suffering and/or evil, God would have to take away freedom. Like Fr. Mike had said, look at the Injustice series in the DC Comics universe. Because the Joker used Scarecrow’s fear toxin against Superman, and manipulated Superman into thinking that he was fighting Doomsday when it was actually Lois Lane, he ended up killing her without knowing until the toxin gave out. After the toxin ran out, knowing Superman, against his will, killed his wife, he eliminates the Joker and afterwards crime itself. Batman is against Superman’s movement because even though Superman eliminated crime, he eliminated freedom. Superman eliminated freedom alongside crime without realizing it and because crime in that universe is no longer existent, nobody has the freedom to choose what they wish to do with their lives, because the only generic thing they can do that is between good and evil is good. Because Superman eliminated freedom alongside crime, he did an evil thing, because no one can choose what they want to do, which is why Batman is against Superman’s movement, because again, without realizing, Superman did something evil himself, when his power was to only do good. So God won’t end suffering NOT because he doesn’t care, because he does, but if he were to take it away, he would have to take away freedom.